Control tactics can sometimes be difficult to spot. What is the difference between a caring and protective person and a person with a controlling personality? Can you be with someone who has a controlling personality without the relationship being characterized by abuse?
There is control and security. This is why most people like to be in control. We all have to give up control at some point in our lives, however, and a look at astrology and our horoscopes can tell us when we have reached this limit.
When we were children, our parents were responsible for us because we were young. In our work, our boss is in control because he either founded the company we work for or has the authority to issue orders. At least that’s true for some of us. In relationships, there can also be a person who seems to be more responsible, maybe because their personality is just that, or because the other person even likes it that way. There is a certain amount of control that everyone wants to have.
For some people, it simply means being able to control their own life choices and make their own mistakes. Others may have little control over other people because they see it as an aid. And then there are people who only control because they are confident and have strong views about how life should be.
There is a difference between authority and abuse of power. Controlling people tend to emotionally abuse power over others. Control is something we all crave, especially for our own lives. We don’t want to feel like we have no say in our own lives and the decisions we make. We’d much rather be able to make our own decisions because it’s our life. However, there are habits used by controlling persons that try to prevent a person from being autonomous.
If you take a look at astrology, you will find that there are some signs that tend to be more controlling than others.
As the first sign of the zodiac, Aries character traits include a strong sense of individuality, leadership and the need to take responsibility. Aries is a fire sign, which means that people born under the sign of Aries are fearless, open, dynamic, stubborn, and sometimes even aggressive.
These people tend to have very strong opinions about everything and they absolutely need to take responsibility. They are competitive and headstrong. Aries people can be bossy and demanding, and they often feel the need to impose their opinions on others. They get angry very easily at the things they cannot change or control.
Lions are the worst of them all. They control simply because they believe it is their path or their choice. If something has to be done right, they will do it themselves. They are extremely confident and not afraid to express their opinions or beliefs. Any contrary view will be answered with a lion’s rage. Leo is even arrogant and bossy at times. It is not for nothing that he is the born leader who is not afraid to assert himself. Leos like things their own way and tend to be extremely persistent when it comes to their opinions or views.
They just have strong personalities and a great desire to be on stage and get all the attention. They love to be the center of attention and hate to be ignored or not taken seriously. That is why they cannot help but control others. They are also able to upset people with their bossy and dramatic behavior.
Scorpio is the most intense and mysterious sign of the zodiac. As an emotional watermark, Scorpios tend to be very loyal to loved ones. They tend to be very possessive and jealous because they often feel they need to protect the people they care about. So Scorpios are extremely controlling, especially when they’re in love with someone.
They want to be a protector at all costs and someone who is there to stand up for the people they love. But it can be less protective and much more control that way. Scorpios feel very safe when they are in control and find it threatening when their control is lost.
Virgos are structured and disciplined. This can turn out to control due to the responsibility Virgo feels for her own life or for the life of another. Deviating from a course or being overly impulsive is not in their nature. They try to contain situations to avoid chaos. Virgo is a grounded earth sign. Those who were born under the sign of Virgo are very hardworking, perfectionists, and always have everything in view. Failure is not an option for hardworking Virgos who often have unrealistic expectations and this can make them too controlling at times.
They can be too demanding, especially on the people they have relationships with, be it family, friends, or lovers. If one does not live up to the extremely high standards of the Virgo, she will move away because she is so absorbed in doing things “right”. Virgos are also narcissistic and believe that they are always right.