What drives your attraction?
Do you know the difference between lust and love? For some of us the difference is obvious. One comes with casual feelings and loose connections, while the other is a deep connection with someone you really care about.
But even then, it can be hard to tell. Are you really in love with this person or are you just very strongly attracted to them? Do you really love her or do you just love the attention you get from her?
Listen, I get it – I’ve had to ask myself these questions before, as I’m sure you have too. And no zodiac sign is immune to having to ask yourself the question of whether you are in love or greedy.
Let’s analyze the whole thing. Lust is a feeling one has for someone who is primarily driven by desire. This is the phase of the relationship where “wanting” is a very real factor in keeping you together.
You want each other now, usually on an intimate level. Emotional Connections? Not so much. Yes absolutely.
Many times when people lust after someone else, they tend to engage in shallow behaviors such as focusing more on their partner’s physical appearance and keeping things as casual as possible without getting too personal with each other.
When you’re in love with someone, it’s a whole different feeling. Love takes patience, but when it’s real, it can last a long time.
Love is a deep bond one has for someone that goes beyond s and physical intimacy.
It’s about seeing your partner’s strengths and weaknesses, loving and accepting the person underneath no matter what.
While it may seem like love and lust are so different from each other when you put it that way, the first time you feel loved by someone, it can feel like lust (or vice versa).
Our bodies and minds do crazy things when we’re really in love with someone, so it’s easy to see how we can confuse love and lust. And instead of asking yourself questions that will likely only confuse you more, turning to astrology for answers might help.
Each zodiac sign experiences love and lust differently, and only your horoscope can tell you how to know which one is right. Read on to tell if you’ve fallen in love or desire, according to astrology, by a zodiac sign.
(March 21 – April 19)
When you’ve fallen into lust, Aries, you don’t pay too much attention to the important things in your partner’s life. Sure, you both have a lot of fun when you’re together, but if he mentions something important to him, you don’t really listen or care. It’s not so much that you ignore him, you just make a noncommittal noise and change the subject to something else.
When you are in love, you want to learn from your partner. For you, love motivates each other to be a better person. No one is a bigger cheerleader to your partner than you, and when you’re together, your love of competition turns into you two against the world instead of always trying to unite your partner. His accomplishments feel like yours and you couldn’t be happier for him.
(April 20 – May 20)
For you, Taurus, the desire is to be lovers who only care about the physical part of the relationship. Whenever you are with your partner, you want to seduce and romance them. Every night together feels like Netflix and chill, and you’re probably only chilling on weekends or nights. You’ll also feel more comfortable telling people you two are lovers than saying you’re dating or even friends.
When you are in love, you consider your partner your best friend. You two are like friends with benefits, except for the benefits of being able to fall in love with your BFF. You’ll know it’s love when you feel like you can go to your partner with problems, gossip, and gossip. And you also know that intimacy doesn’t define your relationship because you actually want to build a strong foundation together.
(May 21 – June 20)
When you feel like it, Gemini, you find it difficult to open up to your partner. You either feel that your problems have no place in this relationship or that you shouldn’t even bother him about what’s going on in your personal life, but either way, you leave your problems at home where nobody will bother them .
However, love is very different. When you’re in love, you can open up to your partner and talk honestly. Whether that means opening up about your dysfunctional family or talking about how the future makes you nervous, the conversation just flows when you’re together. You’re already a talkative person, but with someone you love, you know you can let your guard down in a safe space and speak from the heart.
(June 21 – July 22)
When you are in lust, Cancer, you tend to be quiet about your relationship. It’s not so much that you hide it from the world; it’s just that you want to make sure this is a relationship you want before you share it with everyone you know. You might even go so far as to tell your closest friends that you’re seeing someone, but you don’t really spill more details beyond a name and what it looks like.
However, when you’re in love, you couldn’t be more vocal about your relationship. You guys are going to be the couple that everyone wants to hate because you’re always on social networks that are cute but you’re just too freaking cute to actually hate. Love is the desire to meet the partner’s friends and family and make him want to meet his own family. And if you could call your love from the mountains, you definitely would.
(July 23 – August 22)
Leo, lust puts more effort into impressing your partner. You already dress to the letter, but when you’re in lust, you throw it up a few more notches. To other zodiac signs, this would seem like they were trying too hard to impress, but you can get away with it. However, you still feel a bit uncomfortable around him, like you’re pretending to be someone you’re not (which is exactly what you’re doing).
When you are in love, you allow yourself to be comfortable in the relationship. Love doesn’t mean letting anyone – especially your partner – allow them to change who you are. If you’re going to dress up in basic clothes one day and chill in jogging pants with kibble the next day, you’re doing it proudly instead of hiding that part of you. For you, being in love means letting yourself be a hot mess around your partner at times and loving every minute of it.
(23 August – 22 September)
Virgo, you can’t help but embrace someone’s flaws – it’s just something you’re so attuned to! And you’re not just doing it to get someone’s attention; you’ve just always been someone who focuses on the small details and not the big picture. But when you’re in lust, you make an effort to look beyond your partner’s flaws… even if they make him completely annoying.
When you’re in love, you’re a lot more like yourself. For you, love points out its flaws (and your own) and admits when you’re wrong. You won’t settle for anyone, and everyone knows that a relationship built on honesty from the start is what makes it last. Love is embracing each other’s flaws instead of hoping that if you ignore them long enough, they will eventually go away.
(September 23 – October 22)
Libra, you’re no stranger to lust OR love, but you know that the best relationships have the perfect balance between the two. For you, lust is letting yourself be a little superficial. Instead of being with your partner because they’re kind and funny, you’re with them because they have a nice butt and big chest. You know it’s superficial, but you also don’t care.
When you’re in love, you can find that balance a little easier (because this time, you like your partner just the way they are). Love adores your partner no matter what they look like because you know what’s on the inside matters most. Of course, having a heart of gold and a nice butt is always a little bonus, isn’t it?
(October 23 – November 21)
When you’re in lust, Scorpio, you’ll tell your partner what they want to hear. You don’t really care that much about speaking your mind or being your ordinary, honest self because you want to keep things fun and light-hearted. You know that acting like yourself means you see the relationship is getting serious, and you’re not quite sure if that’s what you want right now.
When you think you might be in love, you start opening up more. I know it’s hard to let yourself be vulnerable because your heart might still be broken, but it’s that risk that makes love always valuable. Love is being honest and open with each other. You want to tell him your secrets and you listen carefully to what he has to say because it is important for you to know every part of this person.
(November 22 – December 21)
Sagittarius, you’ve always been a kind of lone wolf. You like to keep things temporary and short because it makes sense to you. Why commit to someone for a long time when you can have just as much fun with more than one partner, right? Lust keeps things loose because you never know when you might find someone else you like more.
Love may not be a familiar concept to you, especially if you keep checking back for the occasional meeting, but when you’re in love, you’ll know. For you, love means knowing your partner like the back of your own hand. You know exactly where he’s going for dinner, you always know when he needs a pick-me-up after a long day at work, and you swear you can read his mind when you’re together. Yes, this is love!
(December 22 – January 19)
Capricorn, you like to think that you know when you love someone and when you’re really just lusting after them. You’re one of the few zodiac signs that always sees a potential long-term partner when you start dating! But being in lust and being in love are two very different feelings for you. When you’re in lust, you’re only interested in living in the moment. When you are together you only make plans for tonight.
When you are in love, you think months or even years into the future. When you think about where you will be in five years, your partner is there in your imagination; that means something. Love is welcoming your future with excitement. You know you want to be with him, and you’re not afraid to talk about the future together instead of just making plans for this weekend.
(January 20 – February 18)
Aquarius, you’re another of those zodiac signs who prefer to keep things casual and easy when you’re dating. For you, relationships are incredibly important. If you’re not going to find your soulmate in someone, then you don’t want to date them. A soulmate is someone you can connect with on another level. Lust, however, is being someone you’re not because you don’t see your partner as someone to stay close to.
When it comes to love, you’ll know right away if it’s real. Love for you is being able to comfortably enjoy each other’s company because you’ve finally found your soulmate. Instead of pretending to be someone you’re not, you let your freak flag fly. You want to get to know this person on an intimate level, which means showing them your weird but incredibly charming side without awkwardness.
(February 19 – March 20)
Pisces, you always feel like you have to present yourself with a filter when you’re dating someone for the first time—just until they’re comfortable with you. But you don’t open up to anyone either. When you’re in lust, you feel like you tend to change who you are to seem more intriguing or attractive to your partner. You can never truly be your whole self when driven by lust.
When you’re in love, however, all that deception goes out the window. Love is being yourself, warts and all. You allow yourself to be more open emotionally, and you let him know up front that if he wants to be with you, he needs to know exactly what he’s there for. The perfect relationship only works in a fantasy world, and you know that love is far better when you embrace reality rather than just playing make-believe.