Whether you’re in a new relationship or a long-term one, there are a million reasons why men sometimes act suddenly distant.
If you want to know why a man suddenly withdraws, it can help to learn more about the traits and behaviors that are common to the male zodiac signs.
Distance can be a healthy part of being together. You shouldn’t lose yourself when you find someone to love, but of course there’s a difference between needing space to grow as an individual and pulling away, withdrawing, or ignoring someone you actually care about should care.
When a man distances himself, it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is over. It does mean, however, that there are some things you need to work through as a team.
The worst thing you can do when you find that your man doesn’t want to hold your hand or talk about what’s going on with him is tell him he’s on his own.
If you want your relationship to work, you have to work to make it happen.
Think of growing your relationship like growing a garden.
The lushest and most beautiful gardens are those that are constantly tended to – someone to water them, sunlight to keep them growing, and a good environment to keep them happy and healthy.
Even with heavy rains and even periods of drought, there is always a way to get your garden to bloom.
Like a garden, your relationship needs constant maintenance. You can’t expect to be with someone for a long time if neither of you are willing to do the work to keep them happy and healthy.
When a man pulls away and then comes back, it’s because the distance has helped him gain a new perspective on the situation and he’s realized he’s missing you after dealing with his worries or fears , which made him move away first.
And the reason men act aloof is unique to their zodiac sign — as is the approach you can take to rectify the situation.
Here’s why men distance themselves and what to do about it, based on their zodiac sign.
An Aries man is a zodiac sign who wants his partner to be motivated in everything they do.
If he seems distant around you, think about how you’ve been spending your time together lately.
Have there been so many nighttime adventures and weekend getaways? Do you only eat to go at home or do you try out new restaurants?
If he starts withdrawing from you, there’s a good chance he’s getting bored.
When you first met, he was drawn to your motivation and energy because it complements his drive and enthusiasm for life.
So when he starts to get bored, he will most likely distance himself from you so that it will be easier for him to end the relationship if he has to.
To bring him back, you should find your motivation again – be it at work, in social life or together.
Aries wants to know that you can have a rich, fulfilling life outside of your relationship as well as inside.
A Taurus man needs to take his time when in a relationship. If he feels things are going way too fast, he will distance himself as soon as possible.
He’s not a big fan of change, so if you’re the kind of person who’s serious and wants to move in together before he’s ready, he won’t want to stay around.
He needs a partner who is sure of himself and the relationship and lets it run its course.
Taurus might also distance themselves if they feel like you’re not being yourself with them.
When the relationship is new, it can be hard not to impress him, but if you start acting inauthentic and inauthentic, he will lose interest.
He wants someone who is sincere and genuine — and yes, he can definitely tell when you’re not.
Bring him closer by being open about your relationship and where you want it to go; Giving himself a future is a good way to make him feel wanted.
When you meet a Gemini man, chances are you met somewhere, such as at a party or some other type of social gathering.
He’s naturally attracted to people who are just as fun-loving and outgoing as he is, so this is a relationship he definitely doesn’t want to lose over something trivial.
If a Gemini man is distancing himself from you, it could be because he’s noticing a change in dynamics that he may not have noticed before.
He knows he can be indecisive at times, but he tends to manage his indecisiveness fairly well.
If you can’t make up your mind either, he’ll feel overwhelmed by the fact that he’s having to take on a responsibility he’s not prepared for.
On the other hand, if you’re more of the controlling type—or even an aggressive, initiative-taking type—he will distance himself.
He doesn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who makes him feel restricted or lacking freedom; it’s a complicated middle in Gemini.
If you’re wondering what to do when a Gemini man becomes withdrawn or distant, know that communication is key.
Talk about anything and you will be able to solve any problem together.
A Cancer man is someone who needs a super-loving relationship, complete with tickle fights and emotional sharing.
If you don’t give him any of these, then that should be a sign that a Cancer man has lost interest. If he has anything less than that, he’ll become quite distant pretty quickly.
He tends to repel most from partners who shy away from expressing affection and feelings.
If you’re wondering how to react when a Cancer man pulls away, know that you need to be more loving and touching to bring him closer.
Don’t be afraid to hold his hand in public or text him you love him while he’s at work; it’s the little things that count for him.
Cancer is very intuitive, so they pick up on signs that you aren’t as open as they are more easily than many other zodiac signs.
Your Cancer man will start pushing you away if he feels you are being insensitive and rude.
It can be hard to stay positive every day of a relationship, but communicating with him makes those tougher days easier to deal with.
If he knows you’re at least trying, then he’ll keep trying. Otherwise, he will remain aloof until one of you breaks contact.
A Leo man has a big personality, but just because he wants to be the center of attention sometimes doesn’t mean he tries to overshadow you in a relationship.
He needs a partner who isn’t, well, distant.
Otherwise, he will become distant and that could be the reason why your Leo man is withdrawing.
He is very attracted to you because you are not afraid of big love gestures and you are honest about your feelings for him.
However, if you’re the type of person who prefers to keep their relationship a secret, your Leo will withdraw from the relationship.
Leo is also the guy who likes to be in charge, and while he likes the dynamic of having a partner who can be a leader like him, he knows better than anyone that there’s a fine line between being leader and bossy be there.
If you’re the aggressive type, trying to talk him over or make decisions for both of you, he’ll distance himself faster than you can realize what he’s doing.
He wants to be a power couple with you, after all, so having a busy social life and a serious work life, but still having time for love is a great incentive for him – show him you take care of yourself !
Virgo men are the ones who know what they want in a relationship long before they even start dating someone seriously.
So if he starts a relationship with you, it’s because he sees something important and lasting in you.
However, if he starts to become distant, chances are he’ll reconsider what he thought he saw in you the first time.
Virgos have very short attention spans when it comes to relationships, and they’d rather be single and looking for the perfect person than in a relationship they’re not fully committed to. That’s harsh but true.
But just because Virgo is distancing themselves doesn’t mean your relationship is over. Some things he’s more aware of are that his partner is considerate of his feelings, needs him, and feels comfortable taking things slowly.
If he feels you are being rude or pushing him into the relationship, he will want to talk to you about it before deciding whether to go ahead with the relationship.
Honesty is very important to Virgo. He wants to know up front if things are going too fast or too slow and what the future holds for you. Holding things back only means you are dooming yourself to failure.
A Libra man can often get caught up in the romance of a new relationship before he’s really settled.
When you first meet him, he may focus on making love before taking the time to really get to know you.
As an air sign, all he cares about is having a deep connection with someone to talk to and spend romantic nights with (don’t we all?) when he meets you.
When Libra men start to feel distant, it can be for a variety of reasons.
He tries to be a no-fuss, flexible guy who doesn’t bother too much with the finicky things that inevitably come up in a relationship.
That said, just because he’s not picky doesn’t mean he feels like you aren’t either.
He tends to lose interest in partners who are more aggressive and controlling than he is; for him, a relationship is about bringing love and happiness to every day you’re together.
If he feels like he has to question everything he does or says with you, it is inevitable that he will become distant.
If you’re wondering what to do when a Libra man becomes withdrawn or distant, you need to remember that you were his friend first, so listen to him as a friend.
Allowing him to open up to you about the difficult things will make it easier for both of you to have a happier, healthier relationship.
A Scorpio man has a hard time opening up to people, especially when it comes to love and relationships.
When he’s in a relationship with someone, he wants to be sure that that person is just as enthusiastic and genuinely interested in the relationship as he is; he’s not there just for the attention or the company.
So once he starts to distance himself, it can be very difficult to get him back in, especially since he’s the type of person who, once made up his mind, has a very hard time changing his mind.
If he’s acting more distant than usual, it could be because he feels you’re not living up to his expectations.
He wants someone who is always honest, assertive, passionate, and patient — he knows it takes time for him to open up to someone new (and he knows how difficult it can be to behave when he’s still guarding his heart), but he hopes you will realize that in order to get closer to you, he needs to distance himself.
It’s a convoluted method, but he’s really just trying to protect his heart, and this is the best way he knows of to do that.
If you want to see the real Scorpio, don’t be afraid to be brutally honest.
This isn’t a method that works for every zodiac sign, but he will more than appreciate your assertiveness and showing that you care about him and won’t give up on him.
When you date a Sagittarius man, you are dating someone who always surprises.
He loves a good adventure, he would most like to be friends with his partner and he has a need to be free.
The one thing Sagittarius cannot tolerate in a relationship is someone who makes them feel committed to the relationship.
Any hint of clinginess and he’s gone. He also wants his partner to be as adventurous and enthusiastic as himself.
If he starts acting distant, try to reconnect by doing something you both love, such as cooking, hiking, or going on a day trip.
This will remind him of all the good times you had together, rather than thinking that a little distance will mean the end of the relationship.
He might act a little reserved himself at times, but that’s only because he wants to make sure this relationship is worth the fight.
A Capricorn man tends to take a very traditional approach when it comes to relationships.
In fact, it can seem almost methodical when he’s with you.
But don’t let that fool you; Capricorn men have big hearts and are very affectionate – at least with the right person.
If he’s starting to seem a little distant, it’s probably for a very good reason (at least to him).
He knows he can seem a little strict (and hyper-focused on things close to his heart) at times.
He’s quite dominating at times – but the reason he was attracted to you in the first place was because you had so much understanding of the person he is without wanting him to change anything.
If he’s distant, it could be because he feels you’re becoming more and more stubborn and uncompromising about things that are important to him.
Many things are important to Capricorn, but finding the drive that kept this relationship fiery and romantic when you first started dating is essential to a happy partnership.
Reminding each other that this relationship is something you always want to work on will show him that you would do anything for him (and that he would do the same for you).
When an Aquarius man dates, his primary search is for a best friend.
He wants to know that even when things get difficult and you don’t always like each other, there is always a friend he can rely on.
That’s why he’s always looking for those moments when the two of you can have deep conversations and get on each other’s nerves, because you can only do that with a best friend.
When Aquarius is acting aloof, they might be freaking out about the relationship part of the relationship – not so much the friendship.
His feelings can change easily, so it can be hard to predict what he really wants from you, but you can almost guarantee that he wants someone who will keep his promises to him.
He may be indecisive at times but when he is in a serious relationship he wants you to be as committed to him as he is to you.
If you feel like there’s too much distance in your relationship, even with an Aquarius, try going back to basics with deep conversations and honesty; remind each other how much friendship means to you.
A Pisces man has a lot of love to give and he wants to be sure that the person he is dating is willing to share that love with him.
Whenever he thinks of the perfect relationship, it’s one filled with passion, romance, and support.
If he starts to distance himself, it could be because he doesn’t feel any of those things between the two of you.
And it might not even be because there is no love or romance in your relationship, he might just be putting too much pressure on the relationship to be successful to the point that he distances himself from you when it doesn’t live up to his expectations .
His biggest concern is that he is dating someone who takes his love for granted.
He can get so upset about it that he unintentionally distances himself from you, when that’s exactly the opposite of what he wants.