Well, I have some good news for you! There are various signs that your soulmate is thinking of you!

I used to think that I’d be single forever or that I’d never find the right one for me. Boy, was I wrong!

My biggest mistake was that I didn’t pay much attention to those signs your soulmate is thinking of you because if I had, I would have known that I had already met them.

My love story has none of the romantic or tragic elements of Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet but it is still full of ups and downs.

We met at the most inconvenient time, we were separated for a few years and then we reunited. We’ve been together ever since.

And do you know what? I’ve always felt this special energy within my body; I felt like someone was with me all this time but I just couldn’t see them.

Back then, I didn’t know that what I felt were signs that my soulmate was thinking of me!

Had I known that, I wouldn’t have been so impatient at times or disappointed in love.

Regardless of whether you’ve already found your soulmate or you’re still looking for yours, here are all the signs that they are thinking of you:

You feel a veil of positive energy around you

Even when your significant other is not there with you, you can still communicate through energy.

If you’re feeling a veil of positive energy around you, this is one of the signs your soulmate is thinking of you!

Here’s what I noticed. Whenever I was about to receive a text message from my loved one, I would get this overwhelming sensation throughout my body.

It took me a while to realize that it was all connected.

The reason why I suddenly felt positive vibes around me was because my loved one was thinking of me at that moment before deciding to text me. Sounds amazing, right?

Also, you don’t need to meet your soulmate in order to feel positive vibes. It can happen even if you haven’t met yet. Energy is truly one of the most powerful things in the universe.

You often feel happy for no apparent reason

Do you ever feel like smiling for no apparent reason?

Has anybody ever said something to you like: You seem so happy. Did something happen that you haven’t told us?

Well, it’s kind of sad that people nowadays need an occasion to be happy but it’s also understandable.

If you yourself have no idea why you’re smiling and feeling happy with every fiber of your entire being, this could be one of the signs someone is thinking about you and that someone is your soulmate!

In case you’re wondering what the difference between the two is, you and your twin flame share the same soul. And yes, you can also learn how to manifest someone to think about you!

You get a sudden urge to be with them

How many times in a day do you think to yourself: I wish they were here with me. I wish they could see this too?

How many times do you get a sudden desire to be with them?

If this happens to you often, then you don’t need to ask yourself the following question: Is he my soulmate? / Is she my soulmate? / Does love exist?

The reason why you get this uncontrollable urge to see them is because they also feel the same way.

Basically, you want to see them and connect with them because they are experiencing the same at that time.

When that happens, you can test if it’s true by sending them a simple text message to see whether they were thinking about you as well.

Random hiccups

Those annoying hiccups! They appear out of nowhere and always at the worst time. But, is this really true?

Hiccups usually happen when we drink too much alcohol, eat too fast or similar. And do you know another reason why they happen? Because someone is thinking of you.

That’s right. They can also occur if your soulmate is thinking of you.

So, instead of cursing everything and everyone when random hiccups start annoying you, just keep in mind that they could be a sign of something more powerful.

Sometimes you can hear their voice

This is definitely one of the most powerful signs that you and your soulmate have a deep connection.

If you can hear their voice as if they are there with you, it’s because they are thinking of you.

Perhaps you’re busy at work or doing chores and then all of a sudden, you start hearing the voice of your significant other.

Usually, this happens when we’re feeling distressed, so the voice of our loved one serves as a pacifier.

The thing is, when you’re feeling off, your soulmate can sense that, so they automatically start thinking of you.

This is a strong indication of your powerful bond and unconditional love.

You can’t stop thinking about them

No matter where you are or what you’re doing, you just can’t stop thinking about them.

You spend a lot of time contemplating your last time together, the first time you met and all those special moments. That is how you know that you’re in a legit soulmate relationship.

If you’re not in one at the moment but you can’t stop thinking about meeting your special one, then you can be sure your soulmate feels the same way.

Know that it’s only a matter of time when you will finally meet. Perhaps they will be someone whom you have known your whole life or a total stranger.

They even come to your dreams

If you’re in a relationship and you often dream of your loved one, this is a sign of a powerful soul connection. In fact, you could be in the same dream without even knowing it.

If you’re not in a relationship and you keep dreaming of one particular person, chances are they come to your dream for a reason and that reason is because they are thinking of you.

Sneezing

Just like hiccups, sneezing also has a secret meaning. Did you know that in some parts of Asia, people believe that an itchy nose means someone is thinking about you?

Now you’re probably wondering how that is connected to sneezing. Well, if your nose is itchy, this results in sneezing.

But there is a rule here. If a person sneezes three times in a row (or more), then it means someone special is thinking of them. The next time that happens to you, now you know what to pay attention to.

You need to get your life in order

This sign is especially true for soulmates who are about to meet.

If you suddenly have a need to become a better person (the best version of yourself), it might be because your soul is going through a transformation in order to prepare you for meeting your soulmate.

You all of a sudden have the urge to stop smoking, to start practicing a holistic lifestyle, to get rid of every type of toxicity or similar.

You might think that this is happening by accident but it’s not. This is happening because your soul is trying to connect with the soul of your soulmate.

It’s because they are thinking about you and patiently waiting for the day when the two of you will finally unite and become one.

They often check on you

Is your special one often checking on you? This doesn’t happen by accident either. It happens because they are thinking about you and they want to know how you are feeling at that time.

They can sense if something bad is happening to you or if you’re feeling distressed. They probably even have the contacts of people close to you in case they can’t reach you.

Your soulmate is your best friend, lover, life partner, and partner in crime.

If you need help with something, they will always make sure to be there for you and that is how you know that you’ve found your soulmate.

Mod swings

Yes, life is messy and mood swings can be a result of a long stressful day and other life challenges.

But what you may not know is that mood swings are also one of the signs your soulmate is thinking of you.

​Has it ever happened to you that you were unwilling to get out of the bed in the morning, go to work and do all those things you were supposed to do that day?

Did you feel like just going back to bed and hibernating for the rest of the day?

And then suddenly, your energy levels boost, and you feel more enthusiastic about everything!

Your body and mind were filled with positive energy and you had no idea how that happened.

Let me tell you how. One of the reasons why this happens is because of a soulmate connection.

True soulmates are connected through telepathy and they can influence each other’s energy just by thinking about the other person.

Random goosebumps

Goosebumps happen for a wide array of reasons. For example, when you’re feeling intense emotions, when you’re cold and so on.

But similarly to sneezing and hiccups, random goosebumps are also not a coincidence.

If you’re not cold, scared or overwhelmed by intense emotions and you have goosebumps, it could be because your special one is thinking about you.

They surprise you

Surprising each other is the ultimate sign of a strong bond and unconditional love.

There are many ways in which your significant other can make you feel special.

Unexpected phone calls, a thoughtful gift or a weekend getaway all mean one thing: Your soulmate is thinking about you.

If it wasn’t so, they wouldn’t bother surprising you on a regular basis.

From little things to big ones, they always find a way to make you feel cherished, which is the biggest indicator that you’re their top priority and someone they are thinking about A LOT.

Hearing your special song often

Do you and your significant other have your own special song (like many other couples)? Do you often hear it on the radio, in a cafe or in other random places?

If you frequently hear your song, it means your loved one is thinking about you. That’s just how the universe works. What you think is what you attract.

When they are thinking about you, they are sending energy to the universe and the universe, as the middleman, does its magic and sends you your special song.

Seeing signs of love everywhere

Do you notice signs of love everywhere you go, now more than ever before?

Are you constantly surrounded by love songs, romantic movies and hints of love in its every form from your family members to your friends who are in love?

When you see those signs of love, you don’t get irritated thinking that you’ll be single forever (if you are at the moment).

Instead, you feel inspired and optimistic because you can feel that something special will happen to you soon as well.

It’s that feeling of warmth and an imaginary promise that there is someone out there waiting to meet you.

When you get that feeling, know that that someone out there is probably thinking about you.

Sudden eye twitches

Eye twitches happen to us mostly due to sleep deprivation,  but here’s a popular superstition: If you have twitches in your left eye, it means someone is thinking about you.

However, if you have twitches in your right eye, it means someone is directing negative vibes or thoughts your way.

So, if you know that you’re getting enough sleep and you don’t have a problem specifically with your left eye, sudden eye twitches might be one of the signs your soulmate is thinking of you.

Feeling their presence even when they’re not around

Has it ever happened to you that you started feeling the presence of your romantic partner even when they were not there with you at that time?

If yes, this is a clear sign that they are thinking about you.

Our energy is so powerful that it is capable of turning your soulmate’s thoughts about you into sensations. That is when their presence becomes real for a moment.

When you start feeling that way, know that there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re feeling as if they are there with you because they in fact are but only in their mind.

You get the feeling that someone is thinking of you

Intuition is another powerful force that is given to us for a reason and that is to know when our special one is thinking of us.

If you ever get a feeling that your significant other is thinking about you, then chances are that it is true.

This doesn’t have to be your significant other. Perhaps you haven’t met your soulmate yet and you still have a feeling like someone out there is thinking about you.

It is possible because our bodies and minds are interconnected and they are capable of performing miracles.

Listening to your intuition means listening to your soul. So, what is it that your soul is trying to tell you?

You’ve found your life purpose

You no longer question your purpose but you’re actively pursuing your dreams and goals. You know exactly who you are and you no longer worry about what other people think of you.

You stopped being a people pleaser. You stopped dancing to other people’s tunes.

Now you’re probably wondering how this is connected with your soulmate thinking about you.

If you’ve found your life purpose, this is a sure sign of being connected to your special one (regardless of whether you have already met them or you’re about to).

Their energy motivates you to do your best every day of your life.

That’s exactly what soulmates are all about. They are here to help us evolve and discover our true potential.

You feel inspired and motivated

One of the most obvious signs you’ve found your soulmate and that they are thinking about you is if you’re feeling motivated and inspired.

For the first time, you’re not afraid of getting out of your comfort zone. You have an open mind, and you embrace challenges.

You feel as if an imaginary hand is guiding you through life. Well, that imaginary hand is your special one thinking about you.

Your past relationships finally make sense to you

All the previous heartbreaks and your overall love life challenges finally make sense to you. You see them as lessons that you had to learn in order to be ready to unite with the one.

You know that your special one is thinking about you if you’re finally ready to accept your past and move on. A new chapter of life is awaiting you and all you need to do is believe it.

You feel complete

How to know if your soulmate is thinking of you? You know that your significant other (or your future significant other) is thinking about you if you feel complete and at ease.

You no longer give a damn about other people’s opinions. You live life to the fullest and you’re perfectly aware of the fact that not everyone is going to like you and you’re okay with that.

You’re also aware of the fact that your soulmate will probably not be an ideal partner according to everyone’s standards but they will be ideal for you and that’s all that matters.

You feel connected to your true self!

One of the biggest signs your soulmate is thinking of you is feeling connected to your true self. You accept your quirks and all your other imperfections.

You have stopped chasing perfection and instead, you’re focused on becoming the best version of yourself.

You love yourself the way you are, and you’re not trying to be something you’re not.

Indeed, the moment we fall in love with ourself is the moment when we become able to receive the gift of connecting with our soulmate. Good luck!

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It’s easy to love people who love you. It’s so easy to fall for someone who gives you the best of themselves and is there for you whenever you need them.

It’s never a problem to love somebody whose laugh is contagious or who’s never moody or depressed.

It’s the easiest thing in this world to love someone who takes care of you, who you can always count on, no matter what.

But nobody is always sunshine and rainbows.

The person who hasn’t seen the dark days doesn’t exist. The person that always has things turning out the way she/he wants doesn’t exist.

There isn’t a person in this world whose life hasn’t been put a weight on.

So, when somebody tells you they love you and you’ve only shown them your good days, it’s not love—it’s the illusion of love.

You deserve someone who’ll understand your mundane side.

Loving you on your best days will never be a problem for anybody. Loving you when you’re smiling, loving life, and seizing the day will be the easiest thing there is.

Everybody’s gonna want to be with you in those days.

But not everybody will stay when things get rough. Not everybody will be beside you when life decides to knock you down.

You deserve someone who’ll understand your mundane side and decide to stay.

What many people fail to understand is that life must get rough at some point. Things must turn around, and you’ll probably fall a few times before you shine.

It’s just the way the things roll and you can hardly do much to change it—except to accept it and make the best of it.

You might lose your job. Depression can come with all her suitcases and move into your head without the slightest sign of leaving.

You can lose somebody close to your heart, or you can simply get fed up with the life you’re living now and wish to have more. Anything can happen.

It might stop you from being the kindest person and make you forget how happy you once were. The shiny days might disappear one day, and all that you’ll be left with is darkness.

That’s ok, we’ve all been there at least once.

But you need to understand that only those who are there for you on your darkest nights are the ones worth spending your brightest days with.

Hopefully, in those darkest moments, you’ll see who’s who. In those darkest moments, you’ll be able to differentiate between those who love the idea of you and those who love you whole.

Because those who love you truly for who you are, who love even in your darkest days, are those who’ll stay—and that’s who you deserve.

You deserve someone who’ll see your dark side and decide to stay.

When you feel the least attractive in your life, you deserve to have someone who’ll see you as the most beautiful person in this world.

You deserve someone who’ll see your brokenness and who won’t run away. You deserve someone who’ll see your cracks and not think of them as ugly but as spaces to pour his love into.

You deserve someone who won’t expect you to be perfect, but who’ll accept you together with all of your imperfections and love you despite everything.

You deserve someone who won’t believe you when you say you’re not good enough.

You deserve someone who’ll kiss your insecurities goodbye and who’ll make you regret doubting yourself.

When your depression comes swimming to the surface, you deserve someone who won’t see you as crazy.

You deserve someone who won’t leave you to drown, but someone who teaches you how to swim again.

When you decide to give up, you deserve someone who’ll push you forward. And when you decide to push him away, you deserve someone who’ll push back and fight to stay.

You deserve someone who’ll know that you don’t want him to go, but somehow you’re doing irrational stuff, so he’ll decide to just wait till the storm goes away.

You deserve someone who’ll love the mundane you. Someone who’ll understand that you had a rough day or week. Someone who’ll understand that you don’t feel like getting out of bed.

Someone who gets that you just don’t feel like dressing up, straightening your hair, and putting up your makeup, but still sees you as pretty, if you’re ready for a Friday night at the club.

You truly deserve somebody who’ll love the messy you as much as the ‘brightest days’ you. Because only then do you know that love is complete.

And when you’re the most difficult to love, you deserve someone who’ll love you the hardest.

So, don’t settle for less. Wait for somebody who’ll love you for who you are, not an illusion of you.

Wait for someone who’ll ease your dark days and with whom you’ll look forward to the bright ones.

This guy exists, and one day, if you don’t settle, you’ll meet him. Wait for this guy because one day you’ll be happy that you did.

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A karmic soulmate is a combination of both. Before we get into explaining that term specifically, we need to clear something up.

You probably never thought about this but all relationships we experience in our life are, in fact, karmic.

Every person we meet is bonded with us through a pre-life agreement, and it has to do with karmic debts.

This includes your parents, siblings, lovers, friends, and your children, too.

There’s a lot of buzz surrounding the words karma and karmic, and it’s often misunderstood.

First of all, karma isn’t a bitch, as everyone likes to call her. It’s more of a righteous and strict mentor or a teacher.

It means action, and we all know that actions have consequences. Everything we do or even think counts as an action, and naturally, it will have consequences.

So, if you ‘bump’ into your karmic soulmate and they give you a hard time while also giving you the best time of your life, know that you have a soul contract with that person and that’s why you’re soulmates.

You’re bound to help each other’s souls grow and get rid of some of the karmic debt.

However, this is not the beautiful, fairytale love story you’d expect. Not even close.

Most highly karmic relationships turn your life upside down, leave you in a mess, and never show up again.

Yes, that means the relationship probably won’t last.

Not every soulmate story is the same, and most of them aren’t picture-perfect or ‘healing’, at least not in a way you’d expect.

A relationship with a karmic soulmate is challenging, stressful, but very rewarding in the end.

Unfortunately, until you’re ready to understand the important lesson that was thrown at you, you’ll probably feel angry, lost, and sad.

Do you feel like you’re experiencing or have experienced this kind of relationship?

If you suspect your partner is your karmic soulmate, after reading these common signs, you’ll know for sure:

9 Signs You’ve Met Your Karmic Soulmate

It feels like they’re destined for you

“Know that we have met before and that we will meet again. I will find my way to you in the next life, and every life after that.” — Mia Hollow.

There’s nothing quite like it. It’s a weird sense of knowing someone, and you can’t explain how or why.

Every one of us has that hidden part of themselves they cannot communicate through words. That part can only be felt and there aren’t many people who can ‘feel us accurately’.

That’s a part of the tragedy of humans and their obsessive need for connection and an inability to achieve it fully… unless you experience relationships like this.

This person is probably not good for you, they’ve probably done things you wouldn’t forgive anyone else for

BUT in your heart, you always find understanding for them.

They feel like some extraordinary being, someone with special powers who can make you feel things like no one else can. That’s a karmic connection.

A sense of thinking that you knew them in a past life and that they’re destined to reunite with you in this one.

You feel an immediate connection with them.

The first time you see this person, you’ll feel it immediately, you’ll feel the instant connection.

Some people say they felt like something had struck them, and others report similar intense experiences.

Once you make eye contact, you’ll be hooked.

Maybe you’ll hate them at first, maybe you’ll dislike something about them; however, you will know right from the start that there is something more about that person.

After the first meeting, strangely, you’ll think about them often and wonder why. The next thing you know, you’re daydreaming about the moment you’ll ‘accidentally’ see them again.

Unsurprisingly, that probably did happen soon after the first meeting, and the intense feeling stayed with you.

Not only that, but you happened to meet up through some weird synchronicity. That’s when you decide to find out what it is about that person that draws you in so powerfully.

Every feeling is ten times stronger when you’re with them

Once you start your relationship, you’ll notice that every feeling you normally experience in similar circumstances is ten times stronger and more intense when you’re with them, be it happiness, anger, sadness, or excitement.

Everything they do leaves a strong effect on you and vice versa. It feels like a movie and your conversations probably sound like one.

However painful it is at times, it’s also extremely enjoyable when things are good. It’s almost like a drug. You’re willing to go through rough times to achieve periodic bliss.

You’re aware that something ‘isn’t quite right’ but you’re also aware this is a once in a lifetime experience that has something to teach you, so you ignore all the red flags.

This is also why after it’s done, there is nothing that matches this level of intensity and that’s why most people go through a numb phase and think they’ll never experience ‘true love’ again.

It’s also why most karmic relationships end up being romantic relationships, too.

They connect you with your dark side.

“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ― Carl Jung.

Having pleasant, healthy relationships is great, it’s preferable and normal. Nevertheless, they sometimes leave us unsatisfied.

How so? This feeling probably comes from the inability to share all aspects of ourselves.

It feels like there’s more to share with other people, but we’re not allowed to, or we’re scared of their reaction.

There are so many restrictions, taboos, and forbidden things that society and our upbringing forced upon us while we were growing up that we never even dared to question or explore some of our secret sides, needs, or desires.

Well, that changes once we meet our karmic soulmate. Everything that has been lurking in the darkest corners of our minds is now brought to light, and there’s nothing we can do about it.

Usually, we try to put it back where it was, hide it, and move on as if nothing happened. But that’s not how it goes.

Once we consciously perceive the ‘dark side’ of ourselves, there’s no going back, only making sense of it.

Of course, it makes us uncomfortable, ashamed, and scared, like we’re not ‘good’ or ‘worthy’ of something. And that’s a good thing.

Yes, you’ll probably experience hell, but you’ll evolve through it. That’s the point of a karmic relationship.

There’s no use in repeating positive affirmations and prayers if we’re looking away from the ‘problematic’ parts of ourself.

And this isn’t only about our bad habits, it’s about our very deeply rooted beliefs about ourself, about our life, our family members and relationships…

They trigger your worst fears.

Naturally, after your karmic partner opens Pandora’s box, all of your fears are on show, and you have nowhere to hide.

Your karmic partner will probably make you feel insecure and make you question everything about yourself, including your self-worth.

What’s interesting is that throughout all this time, you’ll feel bad and hurt, but you’ll never feel lonely.

This is due to your innate recognition of a previous lifetime.

Even though you don’t consciously comprehend that what’s happening is for your good, no matter how confusing it seems, it is a soul lesson.

Your karmic partner doesn’t usually do this on purpose, but they sure do push all the ‘wrong buttons’.

There’s probably no person who can trigger you more easily than them, and that’s not a coincidence.

Not only is it not a coincidence, they’re ‘programmed’ to trigger you. Everything about karmic soulmates screams tough love.

This relationship can’t be avoided. Of course, if it becomes too toxic, a break-up is inevitable, but the longer they stay in our lives, they will make their mark forever.

Your relationship has toxic moments, and you don’t seem to care

“Impossible to let go… No longer knowing how to hold on.” ― Truth Devour

Souls are reincarnated into this life to pay off their karmic debt, and that debt is something that can be partially but never completely or fully controlled.

It can definitely be eased by good actions and conscious living but in one way or another, we’ll be reminded of our past actions.

However, with care, something that could’ve been a lion’s bite can transform into a mosquito bite and that’s very important.

Still, when it comes to relationships like this, it’s hard to keep your cool, your rationality and your sense of true self.

When you’re with your karmic partner, you’re fighting your illusory image of self. They are your (very clean and undistorted) mirror.

They subconsciously want you to see yourself as you truly are, without all the junk or other people’s influences that have accumulated over the years.

Of course, this means a roller coaster of emotions and a relationship that is often labeled as toxic.

Nevertheless, while it lasts, you don’t seem to care about the toxic parts, as long as there are good parts.

It’s extremely hard to keep a happy-go-lucky attitude when someone is constantly reminding you of your imperfections, whether you want them to or not.

That is their purpose, and our soul lessons go beyond labels, no matter what anyone says.

This doesn’t mean anyone should stay in an abusive relationship, however; on the contrary, this is how they’ll learn not to be in one.

You can’t imagine your future with them..

Despite an obvious soul connection, deep down inside, you know you can’t imagine yourself with this person in the future.

You can’t imagine a peaceful or normal relationship with them and you definitely don’t want to stay in a tumultuous relationship for the rest of your life.

In fact, your mind doesn’t know what to do when you start thinking about it and your heart already knows that it’s probably doomed.

Nevertheless, when you think about losing them, your heart sinks and you go into panic mode. Know that this is normal.

After all, it’s hard to guess what kind of a relationship you had in your previous lives and what kinds of emotional strings are attached between you two, in addition to those in this life.

Whenever we experience something intense, it could be connected with something we don’t remember from our past lives.

The point is that you know you won’t end up together and before you’re even done with them, you’ll start to mourn the relationship.

Separation from a person you’re very karmically connected to is a very painful but inevitable experience.

They changed your life foreverr..r

After you meet your karmic soulmate, your life won’t be the same again, I can guarantee you that. Everything will feel different, you will feel different.

A lot of your personality will be changed or gone for good. You’ll start addressing yourself from the past as the ‘old you’.

You’ll stop relating to many things you used to like and your view of relationships will be forever changeYou mayill lose some of your friends or find a new group of people who share your beliefs.

A karmic partner brings about big life lessons in a short amount of time and not everyone is ready to handle that positively.

For some people, the whole experience feels like another failure. Some feel used, betrayed, or abandoned after their partner leaves.

You’ll need time to make sense of it all and recognize that that person was your teacher, regardless of how messed up some of the things that happened were at first sight.

This experience will change your life forever, and you’ll remember it for the rest of your life.

You have become more aware of repeating patterns in your life

One of the things that happens in the aftermath of these events is that you get clarity about certain things in your life that no longer serve you.

After you say goodbye to the inauthentic part of yourself, you’ll make room for stronger intuition and more awareness.

For example, you’ll start noticing how karma really works in everyday life or you’ll start noticing how you always bump into the same type of person over and over again and they always have the same effect on you.

You’ll start noticing and understanding the signs along the way better than before.

You’ll learn to see more subtle signs and you’ll be sure about their true meaning. You’ll learn how to cut the karmic ties and pay off the debt.

Other types of relationships

Apart from a karmic soulmate, there are a few other types of relationships.

None of these relationships or their definitions are set in stone (meaning there’s no definite rules to them); however, they help us understand our experiences more easily.

Twin flame relationships

“I look into your eyes and I’m sure that some divine artist dipped her brush in the same soul and used it to paint us both.” ― Cristen Rodgers.

This type of relationship means that we’re not only connected to another person on a soul level but that we share one soul with them.

Unlike a traditional soulmate connection (the good kind), they’re not as comfortable or perfect. They have challenging aspects but not in the same way as a karmic relationship.

With this kind of relationship, one feels like they’re ‘home’ with their twin.

They feel like they’re whole again and can experience a genuine connection on every possible level; a mental connection (they sometimes even share a thought, read each other’s mind, etc.), an emotional connection, a spiritual connection as well as a connection between their physical bodies.

Traditional soulmate relationships

“Our souls speak a language that is beyond human understanding. A connection so rare the universe won’t let us part.” ― Nikki Rowe

As we already know, there isn’t only one type of soulmate.

A soulmate connection isn’t always romantic and can happen with anyone, including one of your friends, a family member, co-workers…

Out of all relationships, soulmate relationships are the most mature in the sense that there are no tough lessons or toxic behavior.

It’s almost like the two souls already had that in the past and now are here to lift each other up and help with each other’s life path.

Some of the signs you’ll see when you find your soulmate are:

• You feel an instant connection, but everything about it is calming and not intense in a disturbing way

• You share similar or the same life goals and genuinely enjoy each other’s personality

• You’re not afraid to hang with each other in silence; as a matter of fact, you sometimes prefer it

• You rarely or never experience negative emotions from each other

• You have no problem apologizing or discussing any kind of matter

• There are no secrets or taboos between you two

Karmic relationships

“Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you.” ― Mike Murdock.

The difference between a karmic soulmate and a karmic relationship is simply that a karmic relationship doesn’t end up as a romantic relationship as frequently as karmic soulmates do.

Also, they’re almost always toxic and abusive.

Karmic relationships can happen with anyone and often with people we strongly dislike.

For example, people who put us through a traumatic period of life, people who invoke fear in us, etc.

Unfortunately, there’s usually some kind of dependency between the two and it’s hard to cut the strings.

Wrap Up

Ultimately, all the relationships we have in this life are experienced to teach us more about ourself.

They’re here to break the illusion of separateness and to epitomize a universal connection.

Everything in the universe is connected and our life can’t be predicted as long as we have our free will.

That’s why a label like a karmic soulmate is used only as a guideline and not as something to completely define your relationship with someone.

Your experiences are unique and your existence is unique. The general rules or signs don’t always apply to everyone.

We’re allowed to have our own impressions and interpret life and the world as we see it.

That’s why we’re born different and born with the gift of intuition. We’re our guru and teacher.

After all, the point of any kind of connection is to remind us of our true nature, which is a part of universal consciousness, a beautiful and fascinating phenomenon that forms reality and chooses to experience itself through us.

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You are probably thinking: “What could an old lady like her tell you about today’s dating?” After all, everything was very different back in her day.

Well, I promise you that she knows more than any of us. Truth be told, I know nothing about the man I’m supposed to grow old with.

You see, for as long as I can remember, I either had too high expectations or no standards at all. Of course, when I’m crazy about a guy, he is allowed to treat me badly.

He doesn’t have to be ambitious or handsome. Are the butterflies in my stomach throwing a party every time he looks at me? Well, if they do, that should do it.

On the other hand, when I’m with a guy who doesn’t give me that tickling sensation, I’m bothered by everything he does. This is when my standards suddenly skyrocket and when nothing is good enough.

Well, my nana told me that I’ll know I’ve found the right man when he checks off all of these boxes. So, I’m just here sharing her wisdom.

He is loyal

When you’re looking for your Mr. Perfect, you want him to stay faithful for the rest of your life. You don’t want him flirting with other girls or fooling around behind your back in any other way.

This should be a basic standard in every relationship. However, my nana says that there is something more important than fidelity: loyalty.

When a man is loyal, he is automatically faithful as well.

When he is loyal, he’ll never do anything to betray your trust, he’ll fight for the two of you with all of his strength, and he never does anything that might endanger your relationship.

He makes you feel safe.e

The next checkbox your forever person should tick off is making you feel safe. Forget about modern dating games, mixed signals, lies, or playing hard to get.

When you’re with this man, you’ll know that he’s there for you and that he isn’t going anywhere, no matter what. You don’t live in a constant state of fear.

You’re not worried that he might leave the second a hotter girl walks past him. You don’t have to wait for him to leave you as soon as you gain some extra pounds or the moment your first wrinkles or gray hairs show up.

He isn’t threatened by you.

Back in the old days, men couldn’t stand having a more educated or successful wife.

You probably think that this changed over time. Well, I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but sadly, it hasn’t.Theree are many guys who still feel threatened by their women; they’ve just gotten better at hiding their insecurities.

This is why your Mr. Right has to be proud of everything you can do. He should consider himself lucky for having an ambitious woman.

So, instead of holding you back, this man will push you forward. Only next to him will you achieve all those great things you’re destined to accomplish.

He is your best friend.

At the end of the day, all you want is your best friend to hold your hand after a long day at work. You want someone to understand you and to love you the same at your worst and your best.

So instead of looking for a lover, search for a friend as well. Search for someone who will make you laugh and wipe your tears away.

Search for your person, a man who will be the silver lining to your clouds. A man who will be there for you through thick and thin, sickness and health, and both the good and bad days.

To Wrap Up

Forget about the idea that you have to pick between a man who awakens the deepest emotions in you and the one you’re compatible with. Don’t think that this man won’t give you the butterflies you want.

Trust me, you can have both!

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I believe in soulmates, too. However, this other part is tricky. Most people are waiting for that one person who’ll be perfect, but unfortunately, they aren’t aware that such a person doesn’t exist.

None of us is perfect and it’s perfectly fine. Because after all, we shouldn’t be searching for someone perfect, we should be looking for someone who will love us in a perfect way.

If you still haven’t found the right person, you should check these myths that most people believe about their soulmate but aren’t aware that it’s only holding them back and standing in the way of true love.

When you meet that person, you’ll instantly know they’re ‘the one’

How many couples do you know who started as friends but are now in a happy, long-term relationship? Yes, your gut can be wrong even about that person who is meant for you.

Maybe love at first sight does exist, but still, even if you click instantly, you can’t know for sure that they are the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

You must be aware that there is no true unconditional love without trust and it’ll definitely take time to build that trust between you.

Love at first sight is just an infatuation stage, the attraction you feel for someone when you first meet them.

You shouldn’t be searching; your soulmate will find you

Many people believe that we shouldn’t be looking for our soulmate because they’ll find us. But when you stop for a moment to think about it, is it logical?

Either way, one person will be searching. Yes, I do believe that true love will find a way to cross your path, but that doesn’t mean you should just sit there and wait for it to happen.

You should put yourself out there. Go out, meet new people, and embrace new life adventures. You can never know where those adventures can take you. To your forever person, maybe?

The right person will stay by your side no matter what

This is one of many soulmate definitions you can find online. So, let’s put it this way: if you cheat on them, humiliate and disrespect them, do they still stay by your side?

No, it doesn’t work like that. No person should tolerate being disrespected in a relationship, no matter how much they love the other person.

To find that right person and to have a good relationship, you must also put some effort into it. You must show your partner the way you want to be treated, and you’ll only do that by treating them the same way.

See also: 10 Things To Do If You’re Being Disrespected In Your Relationship.

You’ll never argue with that person.

Do you think that you and your soulmate will be exactly alike? That there no differences between you?

Oh, how wrong that is. I don’t, and I truly don’t want to find anyone similar to me because I know it would be a total mess. I’m more of an ‘opposites attract’ kind of person.

Remember this first: having a few arguments in a relationship is allowed because those things will strengthen the bond between you.

There are no healthy and committed couples without some differences between them.

The question is how you’ll manage those differences. It’s important to accept and embrace your differences and to make the most of them.

That person will become your everything.

Well, this is pretty fascinating to me. As long as your parents are alive, as long as you have honest and loyal friends, your partner will never be able to become your everything.

It would be completely unfair to all the other people in your life who are there for good reason. It’s good to know your priorities but don’t ever make the list of your priorities a one-person list.

You’ll never have to make any compromises.

Oh, really? Sometimes, we have to make compromises with ourselves, so how could we find someone we won’t have to make any compromises with?

I don’t think it’s possible. We are all unique human beings with unique perspectives and different opinions.

That’s why we all have to settle for some compromises from time to time if we want to keep the engine (our relationship) going.

It’ll be a completely effortless relationship.

Do you believe that a relationship between two people can succeed without putting any effort into it? Is love the only ingredient necessary for a successful relationship?

No, no, no. To get such a complicated thing as a romantic relationship to work, you’ll need so many more ingredients. Love is crucial, but making compromises and sacrifices and building trust are essential too.

That person will be your other half.

How many times have you heard someone say, “When I finally meet the right one, my life will be complete,” or, “My partner is my other half”?

Whaaaaat? This is a major untrue myth about soulmates that needs to be addressed immediately. God made you a whole person, so why would you feel incomplete?

If you feel that something is missing in your life, no other person will be able to fill it. Only you have that ability.

You don’t need anyone to complete you, you just need someone to accept you, the WHOLE you, just the way you are

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This bugged me for a while, so I decided to do some research. Like a lot of you out there, I am a sucker for love.

This has propelled me to dig deeper and get to the bottom of this enigmatic saying.

Turns out there’s a lot to be said about this. As we’re all aware, real love takes continuous work, effort,,,t and understanding.

It isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. There’s a gray area between that ultimately makes or breaks you.

During conversations with different people, I was most curious to find out how you can be sure that you’ve found someone who’s worth all the sacrifices.

How do you know for sure that this is the right person who’ll show you what true love is? And what I found out truly opened my eyes.

After numerous talks with my best friends and family, I was finally able to understand this saying a bit better.

If you care to find out whether what you have is just infatuation or a healthy relationship in the making, I’ve got the answers you’re looking for.

It’s difficult to guarantee perfect compatibility in your new relationship. These 20 good signs will show whether what you have is the real thing or a passing fling.

The True Meaning Of When You Know You Know

Fairy tales aren’t real, but when you finally feel that click with someone, you stop caring about perfection.

When you’re with the right person, you roll with the punches, knowing you’ve got the best companion along for the ride. And according to my research, this is how you know you’ve found them.

You don’t feel a compulsion to hide any part of you

For perhaps the first time, you feel free to be your true, authentic self.

You no longer feel any need to hide a part of you that might scare them away. Why? Because this person doesn’t scare easily.

They love your quirkiness, your chatterbox personality, your inability to stay quiet when you get up,  sit, and even your sudden mood swings.

With them, you feel completely liberated to be who you are when you are alone together. And that is the ultimate sign that you’ve found yourself a keeper.

You enjoy spending time together,,r but equally value your time apart

The thing all experts say is a fundamental rule for a romantic relationship is the ability to enjoy time apart.

Yes, this person is your soulmate, but you still nurture the life you have outside your relationship.

You are both perfectly okay with the other one spending time with friends and family. After all, you are the one they’re coming back home to.

You’re on the same page when it comes to your future, couples must be able to discuss their future.

It’s not a good sign if you secretly know that your visions clash so y,, you avoid talking about it altogether. For this to work, you need to be on the same page.

Naturally, this isn’t something you’ll discuss on your first date. But eventually, the topic should arise, and you need to be able to handle it maturely.

This is the rest of your life you’re talking about.

Don’t you deserve someone who feels the same way as you about how to spend it? And if you’ve found it, that is how you know.

Your fights are rare but alwaysfair

You know that it’s not about winning. A fight is about finding a common resolution that will benefit you both.

Nobody should come out victorious,  as it’s all about you and them against the issue.

A few couples get this, but those who do have the best chance of going the distance.  nce

When you fight fairly, you know that you’ve got each other’s best interests at heart.

Sometimes, during fights, you’ll think to yourself: I don’t even know who you are but even then, you’d never think to say something you know you’ll regret. Eventually, it all works out.

You take each other’s opinions into account about everything

When you know you know, and this is one of the best examples. Your partner asks for your opinion, lly take it into account, as do you.

You will never do stuff without checking with them first, as you know that it’s not how it works.

You’re a united team, and you value each other’s input on every subject that concerns your relationship.

You’ve felt an uncanny sense of closeness from the get-go

Ever since high school or college (or whenever you met), you’ve felt an unusual sense of closeness. Something you’d never felt before.

This gave you the push you needed to realize this love story. And what do you know?

It turned out to be one for the ages. The feeling you’ve been immersed in since day one has only gotten stronger.

Today, you love them more than you ever thought possible.

And the funny thing is, you never believed you could love them more than you did back then but life sure has proved you wrong.

You both gladly put in the effort to make iworkk

The biggest cornerstone of a romantic relationship is the effort that both partners need to put in, and this is a two-way street.

If you are the only one trying hard to push through the dark times and they couldn’t be bothered, it will never survive.

However, when you’re with the right person, the effort is real on both sides. It’s always fifty-fifty.

Heck, on days when you feel low, it’s eighty-twenty because they’re always there to take the burden off your shoulders when you need it.

You make sure to never go too long without seeing each other

Even if your relationship has to survive a distance as far as New York to L.A., you make it a point to see each other regularly.

If it’s been two weeks, one of you is hopping on the first flight for some much-needed quality time. Why?

Because when you know,w you know!

Some people are worth the distance. And it’s never crossed your mind to let something like that affect your relationship. Your love trumps all the miles between you.

You never flake on each other – your commitment to them beats everything else

Nothing says I love you like always being there. But not because you feel like you have to but because you truly want to.

No matter what your day is like, you’re always going to make an effort to keep to the plans you made.

Sure, some days, it really can’t be done (and they get it), you’ll always have them in the back of your mind.

To me, that’s what real love is all about. There are no silly excuses as to why you won’t be able to make it. Why?

For the sole purpose of genuinely wanting to make it!

You never feel nostalgic about your singlehood

You don’t miss being a single person one bit!

Sometimes, you browse through your social media photos from your single days, nd you just feel a sense of relief that this is no longer the case.

You’ve never really felt that way before.

In the past, it always reminded you of simpler and happier times, but now, you just feel so utterly blessed that you don’t ever have to walk through life alone again.

You’ve met each other’s families and friends (and you all get along great)

From I don’t even know who you are to What on earth would I do without you (and your fam)!

Who’d have thought that you’d meet someone whose family would genuinely feel like your family?

A few years ago, you didn’t even know they existed, and now, you have so many people who you care about on their side. And that’s a sign that you’ve met the one.

You don’t find it burdensome to visit their folks. Quite the contrary!

You’ve developed a unique bond with your sisiblingyouparentsts adore you.

You’re comfortable letting your vulnerability show and vice versa

No matter how vulnerable you are around your partner, they will never hurt your self-esteem.

It’s okay to be bro, and it’s okay to feel lost. They encourage you to let it all out.

The right person will never make you feel like you’re being annoying for being sad.

They understand that it’s not always going to be smooth sailing and they’re always your shoulder to cry on.

You don’t feel the need to fill every silence with words

This is real life, not fantasy land. And guess what?

You’re not always going to have something to say,  ay but that’s the beauty of it. You won’t even feel the need to.

People who share a strong emotional and mental connection understand that you can enjoy being together without needing to talk all the time.

The quiet is just as comfortable as a riveting conversation.

When you get to a place where this is perfectly normal, comfortable even, there’s no question whether you’re with the right person. The quiet says it all.

There’s an emotional, men, and physical connection

There’s a genuine connection between you. When you’re with them, it’s as if you can read each minds.

When they’re sad, you’re sad. And the thing is, they don’t even have to say it. You feel it every time.

They’re your best friend on Earth, and you can feel it in your bones that you’d be crushed if something ever happened to them.

They are probably the only person in the world who gets you completely.

A lot of people think they do, but your partner is the only one who knows you inside out. It’s scary, daunting, a land where andmustucan trust each other with everything.ng

You’d trust them with your life; that’s never even in question.

If you were in a grave situation and had only one phone call, you’d call them because you know they’d pick up.

Somehow, you just feel that you’re always safest in their hands. And the thing is, it’s hard to pinpoint why.

While there are so many reasons, somehow, none of them can quite encapsulate it right.

You accept and embrace their flaws and imperfections

Don’t you know that there’s no such thing as perfection? No matter how hard you try, you’ll never find a perfect partner.

There will always be that one annoying habit that they just won’t be able to break or a silly catchphrase you’ll wish they’d stop throwing around.

When you realize that you can’t change a person, that’s when you get what true love is.

Love is being there for them despite all their flaws and imperfections. Love is standing by their side even when you want to strangle them (but not really).

Love is messed u,  but when it’s real, you just don’t care.

Their mere presence makes you feel happy and fulfilled

It’s the little things that make all the difference. You don’t need grand gestures or constant proclamations of love.

You just need them to physically be there. That’s it.

When they’re by your side, you feel whole. There’s nothing you need, want, or crave.

Their presence is all you’ll ever need to be happy in life. It might sound silly or even cheesy,  but when you know,,w you know. 

Also, when you’re not together, you notice those signs someone is thinking about you and you know that someone is them.

You make each other laugh more than anyone else can

You make each other LOL without even trying. To me, humor is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship.

You can’t always be serious. Who’s going to cheer you up when life gets you down?

When you need an instant pick-me-up, you know who to call. And with them, laughter comes so easily.

That’s because they know you so well. They know what makes you tick and what will make you pee your pants laughing.

The most boring things are super exciting when you’re together

A simple thing like a trip to the grocery store suddenly seems fun, and this is something sstatedby.

When you’re with the right person, you’ll have fun no matter what you’re doing.

Taking a stroll down the riverside, picking up your dry cleaning,  going or buying your weekly groceries.

It’s fun all around. You don’t even have to say anything, you’ll just giggle knowing what they’re thinking.

During times like these, when you’re happy doing absolutely nothing, it becomes crystal clear why this person is tailor-made for you.

Their happiness is your happine.ss

When they’re sad, you’re sad. When they’re happy, you’re over the moon.

Their joy makes you happier than your own, and that is a sign of love in its truest form.

You don’t need constant signs of affection or material stuff. All you need is your best friend in tow, and you’re the happiest clam there is.

No one’s happiness has ever mattered as much as theirs.

When You Know You Know Quotes

Enjoy these inspiring quotes that reflect what real love is for different people.

If you find yourself in any of them, share them with your better half and be proud of what you have.

1. “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”―Brené Brown

2. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”―Unknown

3. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”―Pablo Neruda

4. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know hhumanbeauty or perceive a sense of human worth until it has been reflected to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”―John Joseph Powell

5. “Have you ever been in love? Horrible, le isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”―Neil Gaiman

6. “Love is not a maybe thing, you know when you love someone.”―Lauren Conrad

7. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”―Unknown

8. “Everyone always wants to know how you can tell when it’s true love, and the answer is this: when the pain doesn’t fade and the scars don’t heal, and it’s too damned late.”―Jonathan Tropper

9. “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”―Sarah Dessen

10. “Love, like everything else in life, should be a discovery, an adventure, and like most adventures, you don’t know you’re having one until you’re right in the middle of it.”―E.A. Bucchianeri

11. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them even though they’re not.”―Jodi Picoult

12. “I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”―Steve Maraboli

13. “‎True love isn’t expressed in passionately whispered words, an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.”―Joshua Harris

14. “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it lo, e—true love.”―Robert Fulghum

15. “When forever becomes a place… when forever ceases to be just a word… when it ceases to be just a measurement of time… but instead becomes a place where soul mates can dance to the song in their hearts… that is a reflection of true love.”―Steve Maraboli

16. “When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”―Jess C. Scott

17. “True love is taking the risk that it won’t be a happily-ever-after. True love is joining hands with the man who loves you for who you are, and saying, ‘I’m not afraid to believe in you.’”―Cara Lockwood

18. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”―1 Corinthians 13:4-8

19. “I’m done. I don’t need anything more out of life. I have you, and that’s enough.”―Alessandra Torre

20. “My point is that when you fall in love, it’s with a real person with flaws. Not with a perfect character from a fairy tale.”―Mette Ivie Harrison

When you know, now you know. There’s no second-guessing.

Just a click,,k you’ve never felt better, and everything that went wrong in your previous relationships is now on the right track.

The words can’t quite do it justice. While the above signs perfectly explain what real love is, you just have to feel it.

And if you do, congrats! Enjoy it, nurture it, and choose every single day.

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2. He should make more effort in planning dates for the two of you. There is no sense in you doing all the work because that is exactly what a relationship is not.

3. He should be there for you when you need him to show you support and respect. If he is the man you know you can lean on whenever you are in trouble, don’t let him go.

4. He should care enough to tell you where he is and when he’s coming back. He should answer your texts and return your calls. He should be open with you, and then you won’t have trust issues.

5. He should never act like something he’s not. You will see right through that sooner or later. He should be his authentic self because that is why you love him. He is not fake.

6. He should at least try to like your friends, and if he doesn’t like them, he will pretend he does because he knows they mean the world to you. He won’t tell you what to do and not do, and he won’t interfere in the relationship you have with your friends.

7. He should never take your love for granted. He should always keep trying to win your heart over like he did the first time. He should still try to flirt with you even if he has you already.

8. He should always make an effort to satisfy you sexually. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been dating for ages or if you’re married, he always has to bring his A-game.

9. He should be honest with you even when it’s the hardest thing for him to do. He shouldn’t play you for a fool or lie about anything, as that makes you look like you’re stupid and you buy his stories. The man who is going to be yours forever doesn’t do that.

10. He should make an effort to show you that you are a huge part of his life. He should update you on his work situation and invite you to hang out with his friends.

11. He should be there for you to just sit quietly and listen to you because that is what best friends do. They help each othr,, and they listen to each other. And if you found your forever person, then he is your friend, too.

12. He should make an effort to come to a compromise. Things can always go his or your way, ay and compromise is the relationship’s savior. Whenever you disagree on something, you should talk it out and find another solution that suits both of you.

13. He should do more around the house. You are not with him to raise him and to be his mother. He is a big boy who is perfectly capable of taking care of himself.

14. He should make an effort to take care of his body and mind. He should take care of himself and look after his health. He should pay attention to how he looks. He doesn’t have to wear suits, but at least he can be nice and neat. He will feel better, too.

15. The most important thing is that he should make an effort to make you happy and satisfied. After all, he chose you, and you chose him. He should hold you every day and tell you how beautiful you are. He should smile at you like the first time he saw you. He should show you he wants to spend the rest of his life with you because you are the piece of his puzzle that was missing.

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Baby, you’re a sad song. You made love feel like a battle, one that I couldn’t win. I gave it my all for the last time, and I’ve never battled my ego and pride for another person like I did with you. No one else was ever worth it, but to me, you were. I was so afraid of looking like a fool. My anxiety kept telling me I was going to hate myself for being this vulnerable with you. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. I encourage others to give him as many chances as your heart will allow you to,o because one day, your heart finally lets go of hope and comes to terms with who he is, not who you hoped for him to be. Suddenly, he’s not the same man you fell in love with. Imagine that my anxiety was wrong…

This time, it’s completely different. I gave you my all. I didn’t hold back a single part of myself. I don’t hate myself one bit for it. It gave me the closure I have needed for the last two years. I am no longer tearing myself apart for what I didn’t do. I am no longer blaming my shortcomings for the failure of our relationship. This time, the baby was all you. To those of you who want to know how I don’t blame myself for this, it’s because you can never blame yourself for loving and believing in someone too much or too hard. That’s your gift. One that very few have. To be able to look at the person who hurt you and still love and believe in them. In a world that can sometimes be cruel, it’s a gift to be delicate to those who have hurt you. Can you blame yourself now?

If you think I’m here to tell you that walking away from him was the easiest thing I have done, then don’t read any more. Because I am here to tell you that it is possible to shatter your own heart.

I have endured some of my darkest days trying to believe that I made the right choice to love myself more. There were days I didn’t even see light at the end of the tunnel. But whether we like it or not, each new day rises before us. I was exhausted from fighting a war in my head every single day. If that’s not exhausting, I don’t know what is. I continued to break my own heart, firstly by leaving him and secondly by not believing that I deserved more.

I tried to numb the pain, and I can’t count off the top of my head how many times I prayed for my heart to stop loving him. I was doing whatever it would take to get him off my mind. Some things I’m not even proud of. The only way to get through is to remember: I love him, I love me more. There is a fine line in a relationship, one which most women blur with their love. It’s the reality of compromising for one another or compromising yourself. If you find yourself compromising more of yourself and your needs in a relationship, you need to love yourself more and walk away from that man. So break your own heart, fill yourself up with tragedy, and then put the pieces back together.

A man who truly loves you will not let you compromise anyone or yourself. You might have to settle with feeling ‘okay’ for a while, maybe even months, but one day, you’re going to start to feel fine. After that, you’re going to realize you’ve opened yourself up to all that life has to offer you. Each person our heart decides is special enough to let in has a purpose, and they leave us with something that changes who we are forever., So thank you, baby, for giving me the chance to completely love myself enough to walk away from anything or anyone who doesn’t deserve the kind of love I have to offer.

Don’t reach for m,y hand, baby, because I just can’t do this. I will just end up in the middle of a sad song.

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He gave up on me.

He gave up on us. But I am not trying to tell you a pathetic story of a girl who wasn’t able to live past the break-up, and she never fell in love again.

I want to tell you the story of how I fell out of love with him.

Whenever my friends would talk about someone they loved very much,h they would say the most awful things, from “I don’t ever want to hear from him again, to, I hope his next girl cheats on him, like he cheated on me.”

Let me tell you that their words didn’t do me any good in my recovery and healing process after my break-up, because they tried to teach me to hate him, to despise him. But I didn’t hate him. I felt the opposite.

How can I hate someone whom I had held so dear just days before?

I saw women around me get over men the way they would get over something small, something insignificant.

Of course, I would be lying if I said that they didn’t cry, but they would drown their tears in tequila and vodka.

I never understood them, I never wanted to do it like that because they would always end up deepening their wound, which did not bring them anything good.

So I chose to take the MN approach and fall out of love in a whole new way. I am not saying that my way is the correct way, but it works and I am happy.

It doesn’t involve alcohol or drunk-texting, it doesn’t involve bad-mouthing my e,x, and so on. It includes me. Me, myse,lf and I.

I closed the gap in my heart with love. I didn’t want hatred to consume me, I didn’t want to be jealous of a new woman in his life.

I only felt love for him, for myself, and for our lives that are now separated.

That’s why I like to say that I don’t want to fall out of love with him.

Eventually, one day, when I bump into him on the street, my heart won’t feel that well-known feeling of being home, that feeling of safety and security.

Maybe that day my heart won’t skip a beat and it won’t make me wish that things would have happened another way, because maybe, just maybe, he would stay. That,a  y, I will be able to say that I am over him and that I have moved on.

But today? Today I only feel love. Of course, it’s mixed with sadness and sometimes a little bit of fear, but mostly I am happier that it happened at all. I just imagine my life without him ever being in it, and I know I wouldn’t be the person I am today. That is why I am grateful.

My friends tell me that I must be a lunatic because I always talk about him with a smile on my face, and they think that I am faking, when in actuality, all I am doing is accepting my feelings.

I am accepting the fact that it is over.

I am accepting the fact that he isn’t in my life anymore. I also accept the way I still love him, because that is the way I will let go. That is the way I am slowly moving on from him.

I didn’t fall out of love with him just yet, but just you wait until a day arises where my heart won’t yearn for hhim not even a little bit.

I have always loved my life and I will continue loving it. Why would I break apart the pieces that made me who I am?

Why would I fill my days with hatred when I can loveunconditionallyy just like I have done until now?

I loved him enough to say that I am glad he is happy, with or without me. And I am glad that I love myself even though he left me.

I am so happy to be able to love myself so kindly now, when I need it the most, without judgment, without asking myself if I am good enough. I know that I have done my best.

So, this is my story of how I fell out of love with a man who simply left me—I didn’t stop feeling all those feelings, I just recognized the fact that I can’t change them right away.

But I will get to the point of liberation, where I will say that I truly did fall out of love with him.

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What kind of person does that? What kind of person makes you feel less important or less worthy of love? You. You were to blame for my current state of misery.

I didn’t want to go out for months. I only went over all of it again and again. It was so hard to go through all of those painful moments and find something that would answer my question:

Why me?

What did I do to deserve such inhuman treatment from you? Why did I deserve to be in pain?

Maybe if I had treated you like shit, you would have treated me right. I guess I will never know. And I don’t even want to know it anymore.

I took a deep breath, went through the following steps, and started solving the puzzle.

STEP 1:

I repeated several times out loud: If I hadn’t been in love, I wouldn’t have been hurt! As simple as that. If I had known that this would happen, I certainly wouldn’t have been with you.

But I didn’t know. So, I cannot blame myself for what happened to me. It is not my fault or anyone else’s. It is just so.

But how can I be sure that it was love after all? What if it was just some kind of test you had to pass to be rewarded with something greater?

After all, you cannot appreciate the good if you haven’ttastede the bad. Maybe being hurt has more meanings than just one.

I wouldn’t mind if there were more meanings to it. I just want to be sure that all of this I’m going through is not for nothing.

STEP 2:

I repeated the next logical conclusion: If I hadn’t been hurt, I wouldn’t be in pain. I mean, what kind of a conclusion is this? Of cou,rse if I hadn’t been hurt, I wouldn’t be in pain.

But, why do I have to be in pain? Why can’t I just be hurt and not go through all of that process of being in constant pain, where I cannot eat, sleep, or live like a normal human being?

But what if being in pain is a process that I have to go through so that I can be prepared for something greater to come? It’s really hard to believe such a thing, but I’ll give it a chance. What could I lose anyway?

I’ve already lost myself, and pain is the only thing that is reminding me of being human.

I need to learn how to work through pain, how to walk through pain, and how to sleep through pain.

I guess when the time comes, I’ll be ready. I’ll be ready for anything.

STEP 3:

I started for a moment and tried to find my next statement: If I weren’t in pain, I wouldn’t…But, what? What good can pain bring me? Then I realized, and it burst like a bubble:

If I weren’t in pain, I wouldn’t appreciate not being in pain!

If I weren’t in pain, I wouldn’t realize what a shitty person you were!

If I weren’t in pain, I wouldn’t realize the true meaning of love.

Now it all made sense to me. True love is made of respect, compromise, and selfless giving.

It is made of everything I haven’t experienced yet!

I’m no longer mad at you. I thank you for that.

I thank you for making me realize that I was in love with a twisted meaning of love. But now that I know its true meaning, I will never settle for anything else.

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