You call him very often because you care about him and you love to talk. You ask him where he is just out of curiosity, not because you want to always be in control.
Very often, in relationships, we have anxious behaviors that we do not even perceive. On the contrary, we have the impression that they show our partner how much we care about him and how much we love him.
However, these gestures betray enormous anxiety and even toxic behavior in some cases.
Here are 5 anxious behaviors that you often consider to be signs that you really care about someone!
1. Call or text too often
Even if you talked on the phone half an hour ago, you think it’s okay to send him some messages. Even if he wrote to you ten minutes ago, you can’t resist the temptation to call him to hear his voice.
It sounds romantic and can be typical behavior for a beginner couple. However, if you have been together for some time and your urge to constantly contact him seems uncontrollable, it may be more about anxiety.
2. Obsessively ask the other person if it is OK
Surely you know (or even are) that person who always asks, “Are you okay?” Sure sure? Can I do something? I still feel like something is wrong! ”
It is very nice of you to pay attention to the feelings and moods of the person next to you. However, sometimes the obsessive preoccupation with every potential signal that something is wrong is unhealthy – neither for you nor for him!
3. You always want to know where he is and with whom
“Call me when you get there, okay?” and “Tell me where you’re going after that and who you’re dating” are not lines that show you care, but lines that mask anxious behavior.
The desire to always be in control and to know everything that happens to your partner in every second of his life is typical of anxious people. So, if you notice this in yourself, you might want to think a little bit about the subject. What does this anxiety hide?
4. Behave with fear, you are afraid of being upset or disturbed
The English say “go on eggshells”. In other words, you are extremely attentive to every gesture, every word, and every facial expression, when you are near your partner. You control your behavior enormously, so as to avoid any potential disturbance. It is a clear sign that you are experiencing relationship anxiety.
5. You often say things like “I’m worried because I love you” or “I’m worried because I care”
Romantic movies and songs have taught us all sorts of things about love. Among them, is the misconception that for love you must suffer, not sleep at night and sacrifice.
It’s time to dump her and move on. Excessive worries don’t hide love, but anxious behaviors that can negatively affect both you and your boyfriend, who will begin to feel guilty about your condition.