All people have problems with closeness that are sometimes difficult to understand. But you can learn about someone’s problems with closeness by looking at their zodiac sign.
Proximity puts you in a state of extreme vulnerability.
With love and trust you can get around your deepest fears and problems. While it is natural for others to bond like Cancer, Aquarius and Aries prefer to hold onto their independence.
1. Aries (March 21st – April 19th)
You are determined to do everything your way, Aries.
That spark of sovereignty within you is strong and you are afraid of losing it in relationships. Because you get along so well on your own, you may be afraid to show others how much you need them.
Practicing the art of give and take is the way to keep your independence and let others in. Also, be careful not to ask too much too soon.
2nd Taurus (April 20th – May 20th)
You know that once you commit, Taurus, it’s forever.
That’s why you take your time to choose the right person. Once determined, however, you want everything to stay the same forever and are stubbornly resisting changes.
Fear of getting out of your comfortable rut is your greatest barrier to closeness – a state that thrives on constant growth. You must believe that change is good and embrace it with joy in order for love to blossom.
3. Twins (May 21 – June 20)
You flutter around a lot and never stop long enough to form deeply rooted bonds.
Fear of being bored or restricted often keeps you on the surface and prevents you from bringing in enough of yourself to feel committed. And then there is the secret fear that your partner might discover the “dark twin” that you are trying so hard to hide.
However, letting someone in lets the light of love shine into the darkness – and leads to real closeness.
4. Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
You’re scared of showing your soft lower abdomen, cancer. With your feelings so close to the surface, it happens more often than you would like.
As soon as you reveal it, you are at the mercy of your lover. Since you are more comfortable caring for others than receiving loving caring, it is actually good for you to be willing to break down, cry, or be vulnerable.
And your willingness to show yourself makes being close to others much more rewarding.
5.Leos (July 23rd – August 22nd)
You don’t like to give up control, Leo. And your desire to take the lead can keep others at a distance.
Because you seem so competent, they may be content to let you take the helm. Don’t fall into this trap, though – sharing power in a relationship is important for closeness. By revealing areas in which you are not as competent, you are showing others your true self.
Your quick temper can put people off too, so be patient.
6th Virgo (August 23rd – September 22nd)
Feeling unworthy is the root of your closeness problems Virgo.
You are afraid that if you reveal your mistakes, others will run away. However, nobody has the same impossibly high demands on you as you. In fact, they would prefer you to come out and play instead of worrying and taking care of them all the time.
Don’t let your keen mind and analytical skills dominate your feelings as the magic lies within them.
7th Libra (September 23rd – October 22nd)
You work hard to make things beautiful and harmonious, Libra.
Because of this, you may have a tendency to sweep relationship problems under the rug, where they ferment and create distance between you. Proximity means being authentic, not pretending that everything is ideal when it’s not.
In addition, your agile mind is very good at understanding feelings without ever feeling them. Entering the chaotic realm of emotion scares you, but it is the key to closeness.
8th Scorpio (October 23rd – November 21st)
People feel threatened by you at times, Scorpio, which can be an obstacle to closeness.
It’s not that you avoid closeness; you thrive on being immersed in feelings and facing problems. It’s just that your intensity and outright honesty can be too much for other people. And they can feel like you want too much.
On the other hand, if you open up, you may be hiding your deepest feelings for fear that if you open up, you will be betrayed. You have to learn to trust more.
9th Sagittarius (November 22nd – December 21st)
Your mark is that of the eternal bachelor, Sagittarius. Free and unbound you protect your freedom very much and often pinch and run away when people get too close to you.
Your biggest obstacle to closeness is that you see commitment as a trap that is associated with boredom and monotony.
The solution is a partner who lets you walk on a long leash – but in return you have to promise to stick with it even on the boring stretches.
10. Capricorn (December 22nd – January 19th)
You want to be seen as strong, Capricorn.
Capable, sure, even stoic, you shy away from the realm of emotion and are unwilling to show your weaknesses. Others end up relying on you, but what if you need help?
You have to learn how to let others through your barriers and let them love you. Once you destroy the illusion that you are invulnerable, caring becomes a two-way road and real closeness is yours.
11. Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Like Mr. Spock from Star Trek, your zodiac sign prefers logic over emotion. You are seen as closed, even cool, and have difficulty expressing what is going on in your heart.
Because you have a sharper and faster mind than most of the others, you think that should be used to meet all of your needs. You are afraid of losing your freedom if you let others in.
But to escape the fate of loneliness, you have to open up and explore the realm of the heart.
12. Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Your biggest barrier to intimacy, Pisces, is lack of self-awareness.
You are such a chameleon and skilled at being everything for everyone that you may not know what you really want. By spending some time alone, away from the needs and feelings of others, you create better boundaries and free yourself from the need to save the people you love or to let them take advantage of you.
You will also find the strength that promotes true closeness.