Are you sure you don’t deserve better as a guy? Think twice
You think your current guy is “not that bad”, that you “won’t find better anyway”.
So sorry if I break the mood but there is a good chance that you are wrong. Especially if your self-esteem is low.
There are signs that do not deceive but very often, when you are in a relationship, you lose a lot of perspective on the situation.
This is why I am coming to your rescue!
1. You have trouble finding activities that you both enjoy
Her idea of a perfect night out is having a pizza delivered and watching Netflix. You would like to be surprised. But hey, you say to yourself “we can’t have it all”.
Why you are wrong:
In a relationship, it is normal to have to adjust to each other. There is no such thing as the perfect relationship, so both of you will have to learn to compromise.
But if you’re dating someone who isn’t ready to do it or try out your “stuff” and ideas, it sucks.
If you can’t find an activity that the two of you can agree on, and you usually end up doing nothing, your relationship will get boring very quickly.
You need a man who is willing to step out of his comfort zone at times and compromise.
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2. Your weird sides embarrass him
You know that you have certain habits that can seem weird and you find it normal that it might bother him.
Why you are wrong:
Your quirks are what make you unique.
The person you are with should like them instead of finding them boring.
If he can’t stand it when you sing on the radio and hate the way he scratches his ear when he’s stressed, there’s a problem.
Love is never perfect, and neither are people.
Of course, you won’t like everything about your partner, but you should like most things.
If the person you are with irritates you every day, you can do better.
You deserve a relationship where you both appreciate everything about you! Don’t be with someone you just tolerate.
3. It doesn’t add anything to your life
You’ve been together for a while now, and one day you realize that having this man in your life doesn’t make a big difference to yours. Surely it’s just because the routine has set in, isn’t it?
Why you are wrong:
Yes, it could be because of that, but often times routine is an easy excuse.
The person you are with should make you feel important. Even after a year. Even after 10 years.
If your partner isn’t adding anything special to your life, what’s the point of being with them? Take a roommate but don’t talk about love.
You deserve someone who helps you grow and makes you feel like you have endless potential. He should be your biggest fan and the person you trust the most.
If he doesn’t add any value to your life, you should be with someone who does.
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4. You really wanted to be in a relationship
Before you met this person, you were almost obsessively looking for someone. Everyone around you was settling in, there was no reason that it shouldn’t happen to you too.
Why you are wrong:
Did you feel like all your friends and acquaintances were settling down and it was just time you did too? Did you feel any pressure to find the lucky one, the one with whom you will end your old age?
If so, you may have fallen in love with the idea of love rather than falling in love with your partner.
Many people say they found “the person in their life” when they least expected it.
This doesn’t mean that it will be like this for everyone but if you felt hopeless in your quest for “The One” before connecting with your current partner (and you don’t feel so excited about it). now), it could be a sign that you are under the spell of a fantasy.
5. You wonder if it is he, your great love
It seems to tick all the boxes on your expectation list and yet …
And yet you are wrong:
You still wonder if it is “the right one”.
It’s probably because deep down you know it isn’t.
You might be afraid to admit it, because of its “perfection”. He is an intelligent and attractive man, with his head on his shoulders.
The kind of man who is hard to find… but that’s no reason to stick with him.
If it does not complete you, if there is not that little extra that cannot be explained and that is not in the lists, it is because it is not the right one.
You shouldn’t stick with him just because you’re afraid that you won’t be able to find someone like him, just better.
If this “little tip” is important to you, listen to your instincts. Never be afraid to end a relationship in which you are not happy.
In conclusion
It’s not fair for your boyfriend to “keep hanging on” and neither is it fair for you.
The truth is, if you believe in love, someone who is more suitable for you will come. But not if you keep a grip on something that’s wrong.
If any of the above sounds like you, you are probably dreaming of a relationship fantasy, instead of finding real happiness with a real partner.
The best thing is to give yourself some solo time to figure out what you really want.
